I'm inspired to write something about the title due to a facebook status and the comments that follow it. Forgiveness comes to those who sincerely repent and obey God's commandments. There is forgiveness in acknowledging faults and not doing the same thing again and in times of carelessness and weaknesses which one really feels sorry about. It affects how we deal with life I think. Some people insist that God is a forgiving God so it's fine to "intentionally" do things that are in the first place oppose to God's will. Why do we do continually these actions that we know displease Him? Worst, living with them! I believe I don't have the right to judge, I'm just at the point of wonder and question why these things happen.
It is the same as offending someone as one knows he can be forgiven anyway and that very person is incapable of not forgiving. It's selfishness when we negligently consider the welfare of others much as instead of giving them reward and be grateful to their kindness, we do the contrary.
This isn't rare, many times decisions are done at the expense of others as the other party understands anyway and the other doesn't. For times, those who have "problems" - "attitude problems" so to speak are better compensated believing it's the best way out of trouble. Turning the situation to those who truly deserve unfairly treated and have been taken advantage of their goodness.
In cases when we have to decide ourselves, I think we better take decisions that we are mainly responsible for, not in the expense of someone else, again, more so of their goodness and kindness. Isn't it unfair to think that some suffer in grief due to the choices others have made? Much more as those persons have done nothing bad against anyone for them to be inflicted with pains and giving them less than what they are entitled to.
Forgiveness is kindness and understanding. Asking one comes with sincerity and authentic repentance which each person definitely knows what is genuine within. It's not what others see but how God sees the inner soul and dedication to His commands.
It's easy to ask forgiveness when one is in that habit, it is opposing pride unless pure and never deceitful.